Negative People

When you read self help books and leadership primers, two (2) consistent questions that are asked are 1) how do you spend your time and 2) with whom do you spend your time? You can tell a lot about which direction your life is heading by looking at what things you put in your mind and heart and with whom you feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and your life. If you spend time with positive people dedicated to your growth then their priorities will encourage you and reinforce your desire to grow. If you spend time with successful people, you will become successful!

Likewise if you spend time with negative people, I have found the following to be true:

Negative people always think someone is out to get them and will make you believe that everyone that provides feedback to you is out to get you;
Negative people will have you envious of the accomplishments of others;
Negative people will encourage you to think the worse of others which will lead to thinking the worst about yourself;
Negative people will always participate in gossip which means they gossip about you too;
Negative people will make you believe that the only way to succeed is by pulling others down;
Negative people will give you a chip on your shoulder that is permanent; and
Negative people will make you believe you have entitlement rights.

When you demonstrate negative tendencies or behaviors, evaluate what you are putting in your mind and heart and evaluate the people you surround yourself with. You will find that successful people FOCUS ON THEMSELVES and how they either contribute or not contribute to their own success or the success of others. They rise above the FREY and in so doing will continue to succeed. If you find your self stuck in a rut you may want to evaluate what and whom you have been surrounding yourself with. YOU have the power to change, make change happen and make things better.